Necessity vs. Luxury
The stupidity that both men and women do to hurt each other, cancel each other out, so neither gender has that top spot. Both genders are equally losing in this battle of the sexes instead of them winning, progressing and bettering each other. Women want a husband, but don’t want to put in the effort that goes with becoming AND being a wife, while the men want all the benefits of having a wife but do not want to commit, and that, I understand, and this is why: biologically, men are made to reproduce and that’s it. As women, it is in our nature to want to nurture, and we are so fixated on thinking that we NEED to nurture a relationship with a man. Honestly, society implemented these expectations of men to stay and be fathers and husbands, but in reality, they really do not need to.
The loyalty, love and companionship of a good man are a luxury, but not a necessity. Now, the loyalty, love and companionship from a woman are a necessity for a man, not a luxury. Funny how that works, isn’t it? A lot of single mothers have made it without a man in their lives, and did a great job in raising their child, and that’s because their natural need to nurture has been met by the child they brought into the world. Not by having a relationship with a man. A relationship with a man is not set in stone, but having a child is. Women need to realize that we do not NEED men, they are not a necessity, yet here we are, fighting with each other, degrading ourselves, and betraying friendships over them. How sad.
Last thing a man wants is to not feel needed, so they do whatever is necessary to make sure they play some role in a woman’s life, it’s in their nature to NEED to be needed, but it is also in their nature to stray. Yes, a man can offer protection, but they aren’t the only ones that can offer it, only thing they offer is sperm to reproduce. That is it. Do not get me wrong though, having a man to cater to is a WONDERFUL feeling, and it’s fulfilling. What is not wonderful is when you realize he did not deserve how good you treated him. But as women, we let our emotions cloud our judgment and could not help but to not know that he did not deserve every little to big thing we did for them. You do not realize he was not worth your efforts until it goes bad, because that’s really when you realize your value as a woman.
Why does this happen? Because just how society makes everyone believe that men NEED to be fathers and husbands, it also has made women think they NEED men. Therefore we go out of our way to make them happy, when in reality, you don’t. You need to learn yourself first, find out the type of woman you are, and then accept it. Embrace your flaws and focus on the positive things about yourself. Find out your worth, and then let a man find you. I’m still learning myself as well, and I wouldn’t have known that’s what I had to do until my close girlfriends stepped in and had a talk with me. Sometimes, that’s all you need is the support of your close girlfriends, but we’re so busy fighting and betraying each other over these men , a lot of us don’t realize that. I guess my point is, to need, love, and embrace YOURSELF, and love yourself enough to not get caught up with the wrong man because you’re afraid of being or ending up alone.